Quote 1
"She was my wife. You are the first Englishman she has ever come before. Now put her photograph away." (1.11.9)
This passage is often cited in support of the view that women are just pawns to be exchanged between men. Significantly, Aziz's wife is dead, not a live, breathing person – she is a thing, basically reduced to a photograph. Aziz shows her picture to Fielding as a way to establish their friendship; her picture is, in effect, a Facebook friend invitation.
Quote 2
"You understand me, you know what others feel. Oh, if others resembled you!"
Rather surprised, she replied: "I don't think I understand people very well. I only know whether I like or dislike them."
"Then you are an Oriental." (1.2.121-3)
In this conversation, Aziz tells Mrs. Moore she is "Oriental" because she bases her friendships on intuition, rather than on knowledge: she instinctively picks her friends, rather than waiting to get to know them. Mrs. Moore's spontaneous affection makes her an "Oriental," according to Aziz.
Quote 3
"[…] Kindness, more kindness, and even after that more kindness […] We can't build up India except on what we feel. What is the use of all these reforms, and Conciliations Committees for Mohurram, and shall we cut the tazia short or shall we carry it another route, and Councils of Notables and official parties where the English sneer at our skins?" (1.11.17)
Here, Aziz draws an analogy between his friendship with Fielding and India's relationship with Britain. Just as Fielding approaches Aziz with "kindness" and with affection, Britain should also approach India through affection, rather than the racist baggage of a Turton. For Aziz, personal friendships, not political committees, provides the true model for international relationships.