How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Narrator.Paragraph)
Quote #4
[Theon] shouted for a thrall to clean it up. Half my life I have waited to come home, and for what? Mocking and disregard? This was not the Pyke he remembered. Or did he remember? He had been so young when they took him away to hold hostage. (25.Theon.177)
Family is a source of comfort and survival, but it is also one of prestige and social class. When Theon is not welcome at Pyke, you'd think he'd just say, "Forget it then; I'm out of here." Yet for him to obtain his dreams, he requires his family's support. The vassals will not follow him as an individual but will only support him as a member of the Greyjoys.
Quote #5
Stannis pointed his shining sword at his brother. "I am not without mercey," thundered he who was notoriously without mercy. "Nor do I wish to sully Lightbringer with a brother's blood. For the sake of the mother who bore us both, I will give you the night to rethink your folly, Renly." (32.Catelyn.88)
Of course, the bros before not-bros rule isn't followed by everyone. Renly and Stannis both want to pursue their individualism by becoming king, and in order to do that, they must remove their family competition, a.k.a. each other.
Quote #6
"You take this business too hard, [Theon]. It is only that your lord father does not know you. With your brothers dead and you taken by the wolves, your sister was his solace. He learned to rely on her, and she has never failed him." (38.Theon.50)
Again, Theon's major paradox is that he cannot gain individuality without his family since social mobility in the Seven Kingdoms depends on the family right. Unfortunately for Theon, his sister, Asha, is the current family fav.