Quote 13
"I'm so afraid of making a mess of being married to the wrong man—the wrong kind for me, I mean." (4.30)
What does Jean Louise mean here by "the wrong kind"? The racism issue hasn't come up yet, and she doesn't seem concerned by class differences. What, then, makes Henry the wrong kind?
Quote 14
"If we married […] I'd be churched to death, bridge-partied to death, called upon to give book reviews at the Amanuensis Club, expected to become a part of the community." (13.66)
Jean Louise doesn't want to lose part of her identity. If she stays in Maycomb, she will. And if she marries in Maycomb, she might as well kiss everything goodbye.
Quote 15
"I see a scared little man; I see a little man who's scared not to do what Atticus tells him, who's scared not to stand on his own two feet, who's scared not to sit around with the rest of the red-blooded men—" (16.80)
Considering the efforts Jean Louise goes to in order to protect her own identity as a woman, she is exceptionally insensitive—and dare we say, hypocritical—of Henry's identity as a man. She even taunts him for not being masculine enough, saying, "I expect you to be a man, that's all!" (16.90) Yet if anyone told her to be a woman, she would lash out at them.