Hard Love Identity Quotes

How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Paragraph)

Quote #7

"Well, give me a clue here. Who am I supposed to be, anyway?"

"Yourself! Look, I'll tell them right now if you want. 'Marisol is a lesbian. She has no interest in me whatsoever. This whole thing is a farce.' Okay?"

I could feel anger heating up my face, but who was I mad at? (11.41-43)

Hmm… it seems like John is more annoyed by the fact that Marisol is gay than the idea that he should tell everyone about it. Perhaps this is because he's not comfortable with her identity. As much as he knows who she is, he wants her to be someone different so they can be together.

Quote #8

Natural born liar strikes again. I promised myself I'd stop just as soon as I cleared things up with Marisol and could start being myself, my real self, whoever that might be. (14.16)

We can't help but notice that John promises himself he'll be his real self before saying he's not sure who that is. How can he possibly figure that out without at least trying to be honest? John's been playing around with his identity so much that he doesn't know who he really is anymore.

Quote #9

"Besides, most of my friends don't like it here."

"Why not?"

"The gay thing. It makes them uncomfortable."

"You don't mind, though." She shook her head. "I like people who aren't afraid of themselves." (15.10-13)

Diana's open enough to share stuff with John about her identity. She doesn't care if people are gay or straight like some of her friends do; she only cares about people confronting themselves and who they really are. Isn't that what John's been afraid of this whole time?