How we cite our quotes: (Chapter. Paragraph)
Quote #4
"You must not go out alone," he said gently. "It is not safe. If you want to walk, Perfetta shall accompany you." […] "Very well," smiled Lilia, "very well"—as if she were addressing a solicitous kitten. But for all that she never took a solitary walk again, with one exception, till the day of her death. (3.56)
Lilia seems to straddle the line between what's expected of her as a wife and what she wants to do for herself. She talks to Gino as if he were a child, addressing him as she would a small kitten. But even though she babies him, she still agrees comply with Gino's order never to go out on her own. So Gino does end up maintaining his authority in the household, after all.
Quote #5
She began to see that she must assert herself, but she could not see how. Her self-confidence, which had overthrown Philip, had gradually oozed away. (4.2)
Lilia's attempts to assert her independence become less and less effective. Notice the irony in the fact that Lilia supports the household financially—since Gino has no job—yet she has no say over the simple matter of taking walks by herself. Conforming to gender roles in this novel is a recipe for unhappiness.
Quote #6
It was clear to Lilia at last that Gino had married her for money. But he had frightened her too much to leave any place for contempt. […] He stopped in the house for three days, positively ill with physical collapse. But for all his suffering he had tamed her, and she never threatened to cut off supplies again. (4.19)
Lilia's moment of triumph, when she finally accuses Gino of marrying her only for her money, is also her moment of defeat. She exposes Gino's weaknesses and shows him that he can't pull the wool over her eyes, but at the same time, she also knows that he has "tamed" her.