Identity Quotes in Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close

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Quote #4

OSKAR SCHELL: INVENTOR, JEWELRY DESIGNER, JEWELRY FABRICATOR, AMATEUR ENTOMOLOGIST, FRANCOPHILE, VEGAN, ORIGAMIST, PACIFIST, PERCUSSIONIST […] (5.34)

Oskar lists about 12 different titles and six things he collects on his little business card. At his age, Oskar's identity is best defined by his hobbies and interests. Obviously, he's still trying to figure himself out. Kids are always trying on lots of identities to see what fits. That's kind of the job of childhood.

Quote #5

She said, "There's nothing wrong with not understanding yourself." (6.1)

This is good advice from Anna to Grandpa that Oskar would benefit from hearing. You can be yourself even if you don't understand yourself 100%. Oskar's always trying to find the answers, but it's okay not to have them, particular if you're young. Your identity will emerge as you grow up.

Quote #6

"Even if I don't like what I am, I know what I am. My children like what they are, but they don't know what they are. So tell me which is worse." "What are the options again?" (7.53)

Ada Black is rich and has a fancy apartment and a maid. Oskar implies that this is unfair—he remembers what his father said about how everyone should have the same amount of stuff. But Ada's not defensive about it. She accepts herself without having to approve of her lifestyle. Oskar doesn't quite get this.