Identity Quotes in Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close

Dr. Fein, Oskar's therapist, could mean a number of things here. Perhaps our personality is a combination of how we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us.

We can only make out part of the conversation between Dr. Fein and Mom, but we're pretty sure this is Mom talking here, and she's defending her son for being himself. Dr. Fein sees him as pretty disturbed and worries about his safety.

As much as Oskar wants to be his own person, he will always remind his Mom and Grandma of his father. That's genetics for you.