How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Paragraph)
Quote #7
Like all strong natures, Adam had confidence in his ability to achieve something in the future; he felt sure he should some day, if he lived, be able to maintain a family and make a good broad path for himself; but he had too cool a head not to estimate to the full the obstacles that were to be overcome. And the time would be so long! And there was Hetty, like a bright-cheeked apple hanging over the orchard wall, within sight of everybody, and everybody must long for her! To be sure, if she loved him very much, she would be content to wait for him: but did she love him? His hopes had never risen so high that he had dared to ask her. He was clear-sighted enough to be aware that her uncle and aunt would have looked kindly on his suit, and indeed, without this encouragement he would never have persevered in going to the Farm; but it was impossible to come to any but fluctuating conclusions about Hetty's feelings. She was like a kitten, and had the same distractingly pretty looks, that meant nothing, for everybody that came near her. (19.4)
In forming a family with Hetty, Adam has many factors on his side—from confidence in his own abilities to the endorsement of Hetty's guardians. He might even have a 401K. Yet Hetty might not be attracted to Adam's plans… she might just be attracted to the attention he gives her.
Quote #8
"What a capital thing it is that they saved this piece of the old abbey!" said Arthur. "If I'm ever master here, I shall do up the gallery in first-rate style. We've got no room in the house a third as large as this. That second table is for the farmers' wives and children: Mrs. Best said it would be more comfortable for the mothers and children to be by themselves. I was determined to have the children, and make a regular family thing of it. I shall be 'the old squire' to those little lads and lasses some day, and they'll tell their children what a much finer young fellow I was than my own son. There's a table for the women and children below as well. But you will see them all—you will come up with me after dinner, I hope?" (22.23)
As Arthur surveys his present circumstances, his mind wanders to his future role as a patriarch. He wants to provide a bright future for the families of Hayslope, and to create a family of his own that will be a source of pride for the community. Maybe he'll also carve the turkey on Thanksgiving and dress up as the Easter Bunny every spring. All for the community, of course.
Quote #9
And yet a day on which a blighting sorrow may fall upon a man. For if it be true that Nature at certain moments seems charged with a presentiment of one individual lot must it not also be true that she seems unmindful unconscious of another? For there is no hour that has not its births of gladness and despair, no morning brightness that does not bring new sickness to desolation as well as new forces to genius and love. There are so many of us, and our lots are so different, what wonder that Nature's mood is often in harsh contrast with the great crisis of our lives? We are children of a large family, and must learn, as such children do, not to expect that our hurts will be made much of—to be content with little nurture and caressing, and help each other the more. (27.3)
Here, Eliot's narrator expands the concept of family to include the single "large family" of humanity. Congratulations, your family tree is now a gazillion times bigger. We're all in it together. And yet, this is not an inspiring vision of interdependence. It is up to people to make the most of the occasional assistance of this "family" and develop reserves of self-reliance.