How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Paragraph)
Quote #4
"Yes; but there's this difference between love and smallpox, or bewitchment either—that if you detect the disease at an early stage and try change of air, there is every chance of complete escape without any further development of symptoms. And there are certain alternative doses which a man may administer to himself by keeping unpleasant consequences before his mind: this gives you a sort of smoked glass through which you may look at the resplendent fair one and discern her true outline; though I'm afraid, by the by, the smoked glass is apt to be missing just at the moment it is most wanted. I daresay, now, even a man fortified with a knowledge of the classics might be lured into an imprudent marriage, in spite of the warning given him by the chorus in the Prometheus." (16.39)
Here, Mr. Irwine argues that reason and judgment are not perfect safeguards against dangerous love affairs. (Is this in a safety manual somewhere?) Love cannot be eradicated like a disease; its symptoms linger and flare up unpredictably. Sort of like certain skin rashes. Yuck.
Quote #5
But Adam's thoughts of Hetty did not deafen him to the service; they rather blended with all the other deep feelings for which the church service was a channel to him this afternoon, as a certain consciousness of our entire past and our imagined future blends itself with all our moments of keen sensibility. And to Adam the church service was the best channel he could have found for his mingled regret, yearning, and resignation; its interchange of beseeching cries for help with outbursts of faith and praise, its recurrent responses and the familiar rhythm of its collects, seemed to speak for him as no other form of worship could have done; as, to those early Christians who had worshipped from their childhood upwards in catacombs, the torch-light and shadows must have seemed nearer the Divine presence than the heathenish daylight of the streets. The secret of our emotions never lies in the bare object, but in its subtle relations to our own past: no wonder the secret escapes the unsympathizing observer, who might as well put on his spectacles to discern odours. (18.60)
Despite his whole manly man act, Adam is capable of experiencing love at its most divine and inspiring. The church service—which for other attendees is just a chance to show off or doze off—is for Adam the "best channel" for his feelings toward Hetty.
Quote #6
"Yes, he does care for me; I know better nor you," Hetty burst out. Everything was forgotten but the pain and anger she felt at Adam's words.
"Nay, Hetty," said Adam, "if he'd cared for you rightly, he'd never ha' behaved so. He told me himself he meant nothing by his kissing and presents, and he wanted to make me believe as you thought light of 'em too. But I know better nor that. I can't help thinking as you've been trusting to his loving you well enough to marry you, for all he's a gentleman. And that's why I must speak to you about it, Hetty, for fear you should be deceiving yourself. It's never entered his head the thought o' marrying you." (30.13-14)
Here, Adam tries to explain to Hetty that her affair with Arthur was a piece of self-deception. Though Adam's words seem cruel, Adam is motivated by a mature and caring love. He is not afraid to hurt or frighten Hetty for her own good. Tough love is Adam's thing. He'd make a stellar dentist, wouldn't he?