Forgiveness Quotes in We Need to Talk About Kevin

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Quote #7

"You want me to feel sorry for you? […] We'll see if there's any pity left over for you. There just might be, but it's the scraps of my table you're due, and for scraps you should count yourself lucky." (20.105)

Is Kevin asking for pity, or is he asking for forgiveness? What's the difference between the two? Eva seems to imply that her capacity for pity is finite. Would the same apply to her ability to forgive?

Quote #8

Was this what it looked like inside his head? Or was the room, too, a kind of a screen saver? (24.134)

Eva starts a brief journey into trying to empathize with Kevin here, as she has attempted to empathize with her own mother. Does this help her on her road to forgiveness? Could you forgive someone like Kevin once you learned what his life was like?

Quote #9

Surely it makes a travesty of the exercise to forgive the unrepentant, and I speak for myself as well. (25.3)

Is this true? Is forgiveness more for the person doing the forgiving or for the person being forgiven? And whichever it is, does it work if the person doesn't want to be forgiven?