How we cite our quotes: (Chapter.Paragraph)
Quote #7
And if it had been a film, I would have told her how much I loved Alicia, and loved our baby, and loved her, and we would have cried and hugged and Alicia would have woken up and the baby would have popped out, just like that. But we weren't in a film, and I didn't love hardly any of those people. (14.66)
It turns out Sam's life isn't a movie. He wants to be in love with Alicia—he certainly thinks things would be much easier if he were—but he's not. He can't help the fact that he just doesn't feel that way about her, and he can't fake it with her either. We give him props for not stringing her along at least.
Quote #8
I still didn't know whether that was true. But I did know it was more likely to come true if I said it, because she'd like me more, and I'd like her more, and eventually we might love each other properly, and life would be easier if that happened. (16.23)
The second time around, when Alicia asks Sam if he loves her, though he thinks he would have figured it out, he's still not sure. Love is messy. Sam can't just turn it on and off like a light switch. He learns that love is complicated and hard to understand, even when you're not jumping around to the future.
Quote #9
However much Alicia and I loved Roof, it was stupid to pretend that he'd been a good idea, and it was stupid to pretend we were going to be together when we were thirty or even when we were nineteen. (19.22)
For Sam and Alicia, love doesn't mean staying together. Sure, they adore their kid, but that doesn't require them to stick it out with each other just to prove a point. The main thing is that they are good parents. As for their relationship? It was pretty much over before they have Roof anyway.